Reasons You Shouldn’t Fuck Kids

Reason #146: The Color Purple
January 20, 2010, 5:30 pm
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Have you ever seen the movie “The Color Purple”?  The book is wonderful, and so is the movie.  This woman, Celie, has her sister cruelly taken away from her by her shithead of a husband.  When Celie confronts her husband about it, she says “She was the only somebody who loved me.” 

We survivors of sexual abuse hold onto the littlest bits of love that you are willing to give us, and we treat these little bits as though they are mountains of gold.  It kind of reminds me of a song lyric from a song by the Goo Goo dolls that says “And the least they ever gave you, was the most you ever knew”.

My ex-girlfriend got in touch with me recently.  I was thrilled to hear from her, as it felt like she had fallen off the face of the earth.  I had been searching for her for years, and it looks like she was searching for me too.

When I made the decision to get involved with her, I knew she was a survivor of incest and child sexual abuse, like me.  I thought of us as two survivors who fell in love.   For a long time, it felt like she was the only somebody who loved me.  I was wrong, but at the time I thought I was right. This is why you shouldn’t fuck kids.

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That’s great you’re back in touch with your ex. I think exes make the best family of choice (as long as you get along with them).


Comment by sworddancewarrior

Hi Butterfly,

I’m glad that you had someone who loved you. That is a powerful thing. I am glad that you have both found each other again. I’m glad that she is not the only someone to love you. You are very special and very loveable. Good and healing thoughts to you.


Comment by kate1975

It’s so true. About the little bits of love and holding on forever for just those little bits even though we deserve a whole lot more.

I’m happy that you and your former girlfriend got back in touch. It is nice to have history and to feel loved.

Comment by some people just hide in plain sight

The opposite can also be said- those we love have a great deal of influence over us, and if we are hurt, it is worse because of our past abuse. As much as we try to putup walls to protect ourselves, we are very sensitive. Sometimes I find myself in tears over little things that another person who wasn’t abused wouldn’t see as a big deal.

I feel just like you do. One of my greatest fears is losing the people I love. I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to find a place to fit in and belong. I think that when abuse happens, we feel helpless. It makes us feel lonely and powerless to the point where we never want to go there again. That is why we cling so hard to what we have.

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